As humans we get hurt or betrayed by the people we call ‘our own,’ our loved ones, our friends and our family, and sometimes letting go of the grudges and bitterness could seem impossible. This is because we hold still to the pain, anger, resentment and even the thought of revenge. Most of us are victims of this even though we might not all admit.
I Must admit I am a victim of this; I have been hurt couple times by the ones I thought I loved and trusted, even by family. There were a couple of times when all I wanted was revenge. I remember how much I needed to punch a few of them, that is if it would have made me feel better.
Forgiveness is such a powerful word, essential for growth, and a vital tool to cleanse karma. Let me ask you a question. Do you find it easy to forgive without considering the gravity of the action?
As a Christian, I was taught to forgive everyone and anyone that offends me, yet at some point in my life, my ‘reality’ found that hard to achieve.
My parents never failed to encourage forgiveness. My mom regularly used the famous saying “to err is human and to forgive is divine.” She would say this everytime she had to advise us regarding forgiveness. For my dad, he never seized to stress on the fact that forgiveness paves the way for peace, hope, gratitude, and joy. I would like to believe that we are aware of this, and that forgiving is key to living a peaceful and happy life.
Recently, I started practicing forgiveness a lot more, but I must say, It has been a struggle. I can’t deny that. Sometimes, It almost seemed as though forgiving some people can be impossible. This is because the gravity of their action did hurt so much, and the pain attached has become a burden to my soul. Have you ever experienced this?
Well, to let go of the burden of pain or anger I started some new steps to achieve forgiveness. First, is what I identify as self -reflection. Here, I examine the fact that my action might intentionally, or sometimes unintentionally hurt others. I can’t quantify how much I have hurt others, or maybe how much I have caused pain to others. So, to get forgiven, I have to forgive others.
Secondly, I try to have a good dialogue with anyone who might have offended or hurt me. I try to explain my point of view in the light of their actions.
Finally, I try to hold no grudge or anger. Now, this is where the hard part comes to play. It is easier said than done. Forgiveness could be easy if only you can open your mind to it but it is hard to forget. As I said, this journey has been a struggle.
Do you think it is easy to forgive and forget? Share your thoughts, experiences, and tips on forgiveness, and I am looking forward to embracing new ideas and learning new steps.