I recently got a request to share my thoughts on one of the trending topics in Nigeria last week.
There was a viral post by the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christain Church of God (RCCG). In his tweet, he shared his opinion on handling lust in marriages.
Read below for his tweets from January 29th, 2020;
“Today, I will be focusing on the married. It is sad that many married people are still having crushes with person apart from their spouses. If there is any fellow aside from your spouse you are admiring unduly, you must see such a person as the devil and get rid of them immediately.
One of my sons once told me that he was always excited to resume in the office every Monday because he would get to see his secretary again. I told him to fire her immediately. Nothing and no one is worth your marriage. What is a married woman doing on the phone with another man for countless minutes? Why would you prefer to discuss intimate issues with your “friend” of the opposite sex instead of your God-given spouse?
Oh, you may say “I am not doing anything with the fellow; we are just friends.” That is exactly where it starts from. The devil knows you are a Christian and would not fall for someone just like that. So, he makes you become good friends with the fellow and before you know it, you would have fallen. May you not fall for any strategy of the devil in the mighty name of Jesus. If you have any friend that you talk to more than your spouse, break that friendship now. Proverbs 5:18 has this to say: “Let thy fountain be blessed and replaced with the wife of thy youth.”
Spend more time with your spouse and make him/her your confident — exchange compliments. The reason many people have crushes outside their marriage is mostly due to a distance between the couple. They no longer communicate as they used to. When they talk, it is only on serious issues about the children or other family need instead of talking/gisting about just anything as they used to in the early days of their marriage. They no longer go out to fun places or take walks together except they are going for family functions. If there is no distance between yourself and your spouse, no crush can come between you. No one should be closer to you or know more about you than your spouse. Shalom”
Honestly, I get the message. He made a solid point on the importance of building closeness, friendship and love in marriage, i mean between the husband and the wife. However, the second paragraph seems a little disturbing to me. He advises his son to fire his female receptionist because he was lusting over her. Again I get the message, but why should a woman lose her job because her boss is lusting over her? Does this address or fix his sexual desires for the woman or any woman other than his wife? How about advise your son or any man in this position to refrain from such?
The Bible addresses this in the book of Matthew 5 vs 28-29. It says, “I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. In verse 29, it further advises that “If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. You should lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell”.
I guess the Bible has said it all, hence this is all I have on this for now. Please feel free to share your thoughts and opinions on this topic.