Yes, the topic has asked the question. Should men be praised for being faithful?
Big Brother Naija recently ended, and in this season of Pepper Dem Gang, there was a married man named Mike. He newly got married in May. Throughout his stay in this house, Mike was faithful. I mean he had nothing to do with any of the ladies.
By the way, is this not how it’s meant to be? On the alter they both took an oat; “I, ____, take you, ____, to be my wife (or husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy law, and this is my solemn vow.” So, why praise a man for doing the right thing. Being faithful should be the norm.
Actress Kemi Lala Akindoju made a good point on Twitter. She said it “shows how damaged we are. When a man is in a committed relationship, especially marriage, he should respect his vows and his wife. We shouldn’t celebrate people for behaving normally. We are used to bad behaviour”. In my opinion, this is very accurate. All he did was respect his wife and keep to his vows, and this is what he should be doing. Can we be fair and honest?
On the other hand, can we blame some Nigerians for praising mike for being faithful? In our country, anomalies are celebrated. Think about it. When a man cheats on his wife, some might blame the wife; what did his wife do? She probably pushed him to cheat? I feel cheating is a choice; people don’t cheat because they were forced to it. Some might want to argue or disagree, feel free. It’s Nigeria we are talking about anyways.
I remember when daddy freeze, the founder of the Free The Sheeple movement in Nigeria said 90 percent of Nigerian men cheat. I guess this explains why Mike is praised for doing what is required of him in his relationship/marriage even by our senator Dino Melaye. Practically, we are counting the one good egg out of the many bad ones in the basket. However, do men deserve to be praised for being faithful, especially in a society like Nigeria?
I feel, and I believe our society is polluted with so many wrongs and errors. A lot of people are making the odd seem like the norm. Imagine it was a woman in Mike’s shoes; obviously, she has to be faithful. It all comes down to the stereotypical ideology and representation of men and women in Nigerian society, and many other nations like Nigeria. This is a problem. This is the problem. I bet she wouldn’t be celebrated for being faithful, just like Mike. Why would she be? Why should she?
People need to get exposure to the truth; the standards have fallen because people are used to bad behaviours. It is time we correct this notion and ideology that praises a man for being faithful because it is the right thing to do.
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