***Guest Post by Olayinka Aloko****
Fear!! If that raised your blood pressure, I apologize. As we already know, fear is a response to physical or emotional danger, often accompanied by Anxiety. It’s normal to experience fear, but it becomes a problem when we allow it to discourage us from achieving our goals and visions for ourselves. Joseph Campbell once said cautioned, “the cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”
As we know, science has associated a lot of our fears with the word ‘Phobia’. For Instance, social phobia, which is an anxiety disorder experienced in a social setting; an example of this are people who struggle to eat in public. Another famous one is acrophobia, the fear of heights and there a lot of people in this category. Even more, there is cynophobia, the fear of dogs, which I suffer from. Trust me; we can go on and on. There are a lot of them.
Well, we all have our fears and worries in life, but we can’t lose ourselves because of them. It’s not worth it. If I must confess, I have been in this bubble of handling my fears for a while now. I have had sleepless nights worrying about my future to the extent I fear if for a lot of things, including my unborn children’s chances of succeeding in our world today. I even worry more about how the current decisions I make might or will affect or impact me or my future generations to come. I guess this might sound weird to some of us, but this is sincerely some of my worries. I think people refer to it as the fear of the unknown.
However, overcoming this has been challenging, yet very fruitful. In this process, based on my Christian background, I have learned to believe in God and have faith that God will see me through it all. I have also realized that things will get better. In fact, I have fallen in love with Luke 12:22 – 26. It says, Then Jesus said to his disciples: “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat, or about your body, what you will wear. For life is more than food, and the body more than clothes. Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn, yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds! Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?”
This bible passage soothes my worries. This has guided me over the years and even these days when I feel overwhelmed by my worries.
I have come to realize that, one of the many ways to fight our fears is by believing in ourselves. Having faith in God and the works of our hands. Also, persevering and staying positive, regardless of what life may throw our way. Positivity is key. It is very vital.
Let’s embrace this attitude and focus on overcoming our fears. Nelson Mandela once said, “I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
Thanks for reading. Have a great day guys!
By yours truly Olayinka Aloko