For a while now I have been getting a lot of my good readers requesting I address Depression as a topic. This is one sensitive topic I find hard to address because I watched a good friend drain himself in it.
He lost his mom and younger sister in his first year at the university and this affected him so bad that he became depressed. When I say depressed, I mean I watched an extrovert become an introvert, I saw a vibrant young man lose himself. I watched him cry in pain and I didn’t know what to do and I didn’t know how to help. He became less interested in his studies to the extent he went on probation, but then he cared less.
He would get drunk and talk to the walls of his room as though he was talking to his mother and sister. I was bitter for him as he was slowly losing himself. He needed someone to be there for him and I needed to be that friend and person but I didn’t know how.
I remember on Jan 15th, 2015 at about 4:30 pm he called me and the first thing he said was “what do you think my mother would say if she sees me like this”. I was shocked. “What a question”, I thought. Then, I decided to throw back the question to him and I asked, “what do you think she would say if she sees you like this”. He immediately broke down and this made me realize that all he wanted at that time was to become the vibrant guy he used to be. Most importantly, I also realized that I had to be that pillar of strength he needed.
Depression, a state of low mood and aversion to activity that can affect a person’s thoughts, behavior, feelings, and sense of well-being. Depression is not just a temporary change in mood, it is a medical condition with many emotional, physical and cognitive symptoms. For my friend, he kept blaming himself for the death of his mom and sister. He had had a feeling of guilt which I would personally describe to be an emotional symptom of depression.
Anyone could suffer depression. We need to come together to help people going through this phase. They need someone to talk to, they need care, support, and love. We need to let them know that the world isn’t over. We need to let them know that there is more to life than losing themselves in a situation or to that feeling of guilt. Our support and love can be a way out.