It is fascinating how some people often crave acceptance and approval from people around them and in most cases, from society itself. Is it really a healthy pattern to continually look for validation from people?

According to a friend of mine, Joshua Ayanbode, he said ‘who lives for acceptance will die of rejection”. The fact is when we live for acceptance we gradually live a life to impress the people around us as if their approval is what makes us good enough.

As individuals, we don’t have to prove ourselves all the time for us to get validated by people and this is because we can’t please everyone as it is hard to please people. We must come to terms with the fact that in life, a certain percentage of people you meet might not like or accept you, and this doesn’t make you any less of a person.

People don’t determine your worth. This is because when you allow them, it only gives room for negativity to bring you down, and this is nothing but a waste of your emotional energy. Therefore, it is best you stop leaving a life to impress people. Whatever we force we push away. It is law

There is nothing more important and powerful in life than purely accepting the fact that when something or someone isn’t good for you, especially when you really want them to be, all you need to do is let go.

So, why not let those who reject you make you more powerful. Why not use this as a medium to get motivated, inspired and to work on yourself. It is like making an internal agreement to never let another oppress you and keep you down.

The more you yearn for people’s approval, the more you end up getting a complex idea of who you are and who you should become. The fact is most a times you know what is right but your mind gets clouded by people’s judgments and what people really have to say. My question for you is, is this how it should be? Do you really need to get validated by people or the society? Think about this.

Well, all I have to say is not everyone will say something good about you, not everyone would admire you, people will say what they have to say but do really need to pay attention to what they have to say?

 

5 thoughts on “A little food for thought

  1. Well, all I have to say is not everyone will say something good about you, not everyone would admire you, people will say what they have to say but do you really need to pay attention to what they have to say?…………….NO YOU DON’T JUST LET THEM TALK IT DOESN’T CHANGE WHO YOU ARE IT ONLY MAKES YOU STRONGER

  2. “people don’t determine your worth”. That got my heart. Nice piece.

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